Single, Happy and Grateful

Thanks but I'm single but and happy.

I hear myself saying this quiet often lately. I have yet to learn to say it nicely, though because I think I am sounding defensive when I do.

Well-meaning friends, colleagues and relatives have this tendency to think they know better how I can be happy. That I need a partner in life. To some extent, others even suggested that I adopt a baby or a child. What???!! 

But, I am having the time of my life. Right now, as a singleblessed person.

Again, I know they mean well especially because they know I like kids. But as much as I like kids, I like them when they're clean, happy and smiling. Not when they're cranky, smelly and needs cleaning up. When they're in that state, I know it's time to give them back to their moms.

Some would say, you don't know what you're missing. But I also believe that what I don't have, I don't need. So, if I don't have a boyfriend, a husband or a child, it's because I don't need them to grow as a person. I am perfectly fine growing and learning by myself.

Some even have this notion that single people are weird or something is wrong with us that's why we haven't tied the knot with anyone. It's as if the only acceptable state of life for lay people is getting married. I went thru that phase already. I used to think that too. But if that's the case, how come there are married people who have wretched lives.

Of course, those who have marital woes would tell me I'm better off not being hitched. But that doesn't comfort me. I actually feel bad for them. I'm hoping they'd redeem themselves by saying, at least they grew stronger and wiser. Or that they got a beautiful child out of their marriage. Or something like that. Because I think people in our lives and things and events happen for one or two reasons. And one of them, I am certain is for our personal growth. These people and events test our endurance and enhance our character. And we come out better persons and/or become closer to God.

As for me, I am special because I don't need to undergo such pain (and the joy that go with it, too.) Thank God. Suits me fine. ;p